Pm1994 Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Hello everyone, I have a small dilemma. After graduating I had a hard time getting a position due to COVID and started a very busy family practice clinic. initially it wasn't too bad but they loaded me up with 4+ pts and hour even though i was told i would start seeing 2-3 when i got hired and would have support of the doctor if I had any questions which has not been very true. I have been there for the past 6 months and recently got an amazing offer in pain management with an amazing doctor. I have put in my 2 weeks notice and talked with office manager about it however I know when I see the doctor in a few days she is going to ask me where I'm leaving to. I have heard from office staff that she has bad mouthed other providers when they have left and I don't know how to avoid her inquires about the new position as I know she is going to be confrontational. How do I avoid telling her where I'm moving to? Thank you for your help! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cinntsp Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Just say you are still examining your options. They only require 2 weeks notice? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mgriffiths Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 It's going to be an uncomfortable situation...bottom line, don't tell her and just go on with your day. She has no business knowing. It's not impolite to ask, but you don't owe her an answer. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pm1994 Posted November 6, 2020 Author Share Posted November 6, 2020 when they hired me it was a " per diem" contract.. it was a weird situation. basically it does't say anything in my contract about given any notice at all so technically I could have just quit but I was trying to be more professional. I already know shes going to be asking about details I just don't know how to dodge them. To be honest she's a bit of a bully. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderator ventana Posted November 6, 2020 Moderator Share Posted November 6, 2020 just say you are not totally sure yet leave it at that unless you are moving far away they will find out sometime anyways DO NOT tell ANYONE in the office or even anyone else where you are going..... it always gets back to the person 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sas5814 Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Three people can keep a secret if two are dead. Don't tell anyone in the office or anyone related to anyone in the office. Tell the doc you are taking a little time off to consider several offers you have been given. If she asks what they are say "oh...I don't want to jinx it" and smile Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ANESMCR Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Just lie. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAAdmission Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 2 minutes ago, ANESMCR said: Just lie. Tell her you're not sure about outpatient medicine - you are looking at a hospital job. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cideous Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 3 hours ago, cinntsp said: Just say you are still examining your options. They only require 2 weeks notice? ^^^THIS^^^ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reality Check 2 Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 I say - be vague. Just "I am looking at other opportunities to expand my career." I know, kind of the "world peace" Ms America answer but it is polite and suffices. If they think you are leaving with no other job - maybe one person in the office will think it is an issue that someone would leave just to leave................. Stay true to yourself and move forward - don't look back. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mayamom Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Why can't you be honest?? Because she is a bully? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pac30 Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 Tell them you're going to a private group called Nunya. Okay don't actually do that, but it's none of their business where you're going. I've never told previous jobs where I was headed 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cideous Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 29 minutes ago, Pac30 said: Tell them you're going to a private group called Nunya. Nunya Business LOL 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose66 Posted November 6, 2020 Share Posted November 6, 2020 EASY !!! YOUR ARE THE OWNER OF YOUR DESTINY AND OWE NO EXPLANATION TO ANYBODY IF YOU KNOW YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT MOVE FOR YOU . IF YOU MUST SAY SOMETHING AND WANT TO AVOID A " BACK STABBING" JUST SAY YOU HAVE AN EMERGENCY AND HAVE TO MOVE OUT OF STATE TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR SICK MOTHER. DON'T DROWN YOURSELF IN A GLASS OF WATER 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrator rev ronin Posted November 7, 2020 Administrator Share Posted November 7, 2020 I never lie. I also don't give people answers they aren't entitled to, either. "Based on what I've heard you say about other providers who have left, I don't think I can trust you with that information" would be brutally honest, and if you're per diem, you can just walk out after having said that, but that seems too satisfying to say. 1 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mgriffiths Posted November 7, 2020 Share Posted November 7, 2020 (edited) I see lots of people here recommending lying. Obviously it's a personal choice, but telling the truth and integrity go hand-in-hand and our profession requires integrity. Therefore just be blunt... edit: haha...it seems that Rev and I agree and at basically the same time Edited November 7, 2020 by mgriffiths 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SlowlyButSurely Posted November 8, 2020 Share Posted November 8, 2020 Having been in a similar situation: I agree with those who said to just be vague. You don't have to lie. If they push, just say you are not comfortable answering. If they ask why, again you say you are not comfortable answering. It isn't going to be easy (as it was in my case) but you have to put on a brave face and just put your foot down and set that boundary. They do not own you and it is your right to seek employment elsewhere. It also has NO meaning for them to know whatsoever. It will benefit them in no way and you withholding that information is not a bad thing. Just chant to yourself: they don't own me, this is my right, I need to place my future first. In jobs like that, your future means nothing to them and if they had to lay you off to put more money in their pocket, they would do it and give you 10 second notice. I may sound a bit cold, but it really is true. One last thing: I agree with those who said not to say anything to your coworkers. Even if they're your friend in office. Bottom line: they will still be with the same boss you just left. They are still their employee. Your boss will likely ask them and they will likely answer to keep in good favor with their boss which you can't blame them for. So just keep all info to yourself and leave quietly, professionally, and gracefully. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EastCoastPA Posted November 8, 2020 Share Posted November 8, 2020 Not sure if relevant in your state, but in my all practice agreements are viewable online by anyone on the Board of Physicians website so it would be a moot point here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SedRate Posted November 9, 2020 Share Posted November 9, 2020 Keep it simple and to the point: thank her for her interest but you would like to be respectful of the current practice by not discussing stuff related to your new job. Don't feel bad about going into any more detail than that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittryn Posted November 11, 2020 Share Posted November 11, 2020 Another nice, simple reply is to look her square in the eye and say, "why do you ask?". It will throw her off balance and she'll stutter and stammer but then come up with some BS reply to your question. When she does, just say, "I'd rather not discuss it". Rinse, repeat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LKPAC Posted November 13, 2020 Share Posted November 13, 2020 On 11/6/2020 at 11:13 AM, Pm1994 said: recently got an amazing offer in pain management with an amazing doctor. I've never seem those words together before! Just teasing! Good luck. This can be a demanding field. I wish you well. Please let us know how it goes. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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