I hate making this post as I don't like this situation but I wanted to ask advice from all of your intelligent people!
SO I have to meet with our dean of students for a SECOND time in the last two months.
So last month, in July, I unknowingly tailgated a security guard (honestly, I just didn't realize I was driving so close). When he got out of his car and yelled at me, I apologized 3 times saying, "it was an honest mistake, and it won't happen again". He ended our conversation with, "Sorry I can't drive fast enough for you" and I said "no that is not my intent, I apologize it won't happen again". That security guard wrote an email to the dean saying and I'm quoting it, "she somewhat apologized, her tailgating me is a hazard to driving, she was on her phone". I was never once on my phone, my car has bluetooth and a cell phone holder so I don't ever need to. I saw the dean, he said it's a warning and to be more careful.
This past Friday, I got an email from the dean that I have to meet him again for a second "reckless driving" offense. I emailed to inquire what was the exact nature of my offense and he wrote back, "i will happily show documentations of everything I was given when you arrive". I went down to administration and talked with the head of security and he told me it was due to me turning the wrong way to park my car in the lot that morning and that the security guard (same one) said I seemed distracted most likely due to phone use and I was going 40 mph in a 25 mph lot.
First thing, I never speed. Also our school has no radar, that security guard's method of judgement is sight of my car moving. The security guard is really mean (like seriously, people have cried), and he watches me like a hawk. Even when I walk to school, he literally stares when I walk past, it's creepy. So I'm going to say to the dean I never speed, people ride with me all the time and can vouch that I drive like a grandma. Maybe I was going 30 mph, I wasn't going like 50 mph, I was well within the grounds of driving a safe speed given a parking lot I drive in daily. There were NO cars and I do admit to wrong turning to get into a close parking spot rather than making a loop around the parking lot to find a spot. I wasn't ON MY PHONE AT 8:45am in the morning AND my phone has bluetooth! I am going to show him pictures of my car with proof that I talk to people on bluetooth, that I have a cell phone holder on the dashboard. Lastly, that Friday I went and bought a brand new bike ($450 receipt, yikes!) and that from now on, I will be riding my bike to school as I am 5 months out to rotations and this is not worth it to me.
My question is: Do you think I get put on professionalism probation? I'm seriously freaking out.
Second question: Advice on what to say when I meet my dean a second time.
I was wondering about what your opinions would be on how personal topics for supplemental essays should be. I have a supplemental app that is asking for a stressful experience essay in which we are to "describe a stressful or difficult personal experience and the resolution of the experience".
My boyfriend is currently deployed overseas, and has been for the past 8 months. For me, this is the most stressful experience I have gone through in my young life. It has taught me many things. However, I realize this is a very personal experience, and perhaps the school is looking for me to go in a more professional or educational direction with it. For example, a difficult job I've had, or maybe a challenging class.
Any thoughts? Anyone who has been accepted or is part of an admissions committee have an opinion? Thanks for any help in advance!