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  1. I'm a few months from finishing didactic, of which I have done well in. My conundrum.. my significant other is slated to be deployed (very unexpectedly) during the first 6 months of my clinical rotations. Rotations in my program, like most places, are often several hours away from our school and intense in nature. We do not have family nearby and have children. I'm considering discussing a leave of absence with my program. pros: can provide some semblance of normalcy for my children cons: will graduate late, will lose momentum, possibly have student loans come due I'm honestly completely distraught about this and unsure how we will make it through.
  2. First - your feelings are valid and I see and hear where you're at. It is a HARD decision to make. I found out I was pregnant shortly after my acceptance, and decided to defer a year (I would have had baby middle of second semester). I ended up starting school when babe was 8 months. The months leading up were HARD HARD HARD HARD. Honestly, words really don't convey how torn and guilty and uneasy and scared I was to start school. I had the same thoughts you are having - will I fail? will I miss too much? how will I balance it all? I wavered every day about whether or not to go, and finally, 3 weeks before school started, decided to go for it. It has been a great decision for us - I like going to school and my daughter is thriving at her daycare. It's HARD though, don't get me wrong. Pumping was tough. Being away late night and being unavailable even when I'm home because I have studying I need to get done is hard, especially when she is crying for me. There's never enough time to get all the studying I probably should do done with a little person and a family to take care. Sometimes, family needs to take precedent and I slack on studying and sleep, and other times, I absolutely have to study and I need to ask for help or let things (the house, home cooked dinner) slide. My husband is in a high stress job and we live far from family, yet we have found a way. Long story short (I'll stop rambling), it has been hard but it has (so far, though some days I'm like why oh why am I doing this) been worth it. I believe you can do it. It will be hard, but you can do hard things! Get a great support system, an awesome sitter, if you have family and/or a significant other, get them on board now. Get good at time management - you might need to cut out TV, extra events, hobbies, or even some friendships to have the time you need for school and your family. It's hard, but know there are people just like you who have done it and are (mostly) thriving, and at the very least, surviving. Please reach out to me if you need encouragement or have questions.
  3. Does your school have a dress code? Do you think schools should?
  4. I had a similar situation - unexpected pregnancy shortly after acceptance, etc. I chose to defer a year and 100% believe it was the right decision for us. PA school with a newborn would be hellacious, honestly. It has been hard with an older baby/toddler, but doable. That would be more of a sticking point than the distance from my spouse (though that sucks too, but as a military spouse, I'm sure you've done distance before - we sure have and while it sucks, it can be done). Good luck!
  5. Another thing - having a baby in didactic year would not be something (as a mom of an infant) would recommend. The newborn stage is HARD and I personally am not sure I could have handled that and the rigors of didactic year. Taking a month off for clinicals may be a better option, but still, a 5 week old baby is likely not sleeping well and is just so tiny still. And that's assuming you have a normal/uncomplicated pregnancy and can work normally during clinicals. It's really hard planning a family around school, especially when you want to have children soon. I empathize!
  6. A little unconventional, but I found out I was pregnant a week after my acceptance and ended up deferring a year and starting when baby was older. This has worked well (I mean, it is hard, but I'm doing well in school and mostly at home) for our family. That *may* be another option for you. We are shooting for #2 around graduation/before starting my job.
  7. I'm so glad that you are pursuing school, too. Enjoy the last few months of your pregnancy. You are going to kick butt as a mom and a student!
  8. I hadn't followed up on this post in a few months, and am blown away by the responses given. Such encouragement!! I decided to pursue school at this time, and am wrapping up semester 1 in the next few days. I miss my family quite a bit, but I'm really enjoying school and grateful I decided to pursue it. Again, I am so thankful for all of the thoughtful responses! I'll have to come back to this page when I'm feeling discouraged and re-read these kind words!
  9. I am very torn on whether to begin my PA program. I was accepted in the 2016-2017 application cycle, but became pregnant and deferred a year (baby would have been born in the middle of semester 2). I am now slated to begin soon, when baby will be a little under a year old. I've always wanted to be a PA, and have worked hard and against a lot of odds for my acceptance. I knew I wanted children, and never thought I would be anything but a working mom. However, actually being a mother has completely thrown me for a loop, and I am feeling so drawn to stay home with baby until they are older, as well as have kids closer in age (we are planning to wait to have more if I begin the program, until at least I've worked a year). I'm terrified of daycare. I'm terrified I can't balance school/study/baby/marriage. I'm terrified school will be too hard. Most of all, I'm terrified that I'll make the wrong decision. Am I chasing a dream that is no longer mine? If I start, will I hate it and be miserable, wanting to be home? If I don't, will I regret it (if not soon after, maybe in 10 years)? I am certain I will be drawn to working at least part-time soonish. I don't think being a PA is the only thing in life that would fulfill me, but I would hate to miss this opportunity, because I know it is an awesome one. I also agree with the thought that school would likely be easier now with baby being young, as opposed to older and/or with more kids. I also am aware this is a personal decision, but introspection, prayer, chatting with friends and family has just left me more confused. Just wondering if anyone has had similar feelings.. Other considerations: family is far away (but emotionally supportive), husband is fully supportive with either decision (also travels often for work)
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