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I used to think that PA school was studying and classwork 24/7 with little time to do anything else. I've heard and read that many people had to put their personal/social life on hold for a bit. Recently though I have heard the exact opposite from a couple people. They said that you do have time to date and while the schoolwork is intense some had more free time than they did in undergraduate (since they didn't have to work, shadow, volunteer, other extracurriculars, etc.) 

 

I know its different for everyone but in your opinion if you started PA school single would you have time to date? And not from your class obviously. Thanks in advance for your help.

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Depends on the person.  Some don't bother because they know they are moving somewhere else after school and are content spending their free time with friends.  I date.  It's not a priority over school and I make it clear to everyone that school comes first but there's time.  I figure I can't put my life on hold and have school tunnel vision.

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I was single during PA school, and I dated both inside and outside my class.  Never anything serious, and never hampered my studies

 

You are a brave soul for dating within your class - there are a few in my program attempting it and I'm counting on it either hampering their studies or blowing up spectacularly.  Again, person dependent I guess.

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I lived with my GF (now wife) throughout my first year, and saw her just about every weekend throughout my clinicals year. As long as you can balance both, I don't see any problems.

 

I would not have dated anyone from my class, though. We worked in small groups and relied on each other too much.

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I got divorced within my first few months (not exclusively due to school but it didn't help). After that I did date a few people and eventually met my new wife while in school. I always let the people I dated know that school was my top priority, however. But you need to take time to take care of your personal life too otherwise you will get burned out during school. Definitely wouldn't have dated anyone in my class though. Actually, nobody in my class dated each other. 

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I was single in PA school and had broken up an engagement before starting.

 

I had a few odd dates in school - went out with a neurosurgery resident ONCE - more than enough.

 

Nothing serious. I had a great group of friends and hung with them mostly. 

 

I didn't get married until 2 years after PA school. Married over 20 years now.

 

In my class, we had 2 divorces, one affair - an engaged student with another student, another affair of my classmate with an engaged med student, some random couplings and sometimes just hung out together platonically. 

 

Dating wasn't terribly important to me then since the engagement went bad. 

 

Having healthy relationships outside the classroom is important. I hung out with nonmedical friends and kept my mind out of clinicals when possible to stay sane and centered.

 

Doubt I could have done school and been married and definitely not with kids.

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MT2PA, did anything serious come from it? Since PA jobs at literally everywhere I wouldn't mind staying in the same town as my school if I start a relationship and it gets serious

 

Not yet!  I'm open to it if it does, and open to staying in this town, but I'm certainly not rushing anything.  Again, when school is a priority I personally tend to be a little pickier about dating since I have to really want to make time for another person when I'm this busy and focused.

 

If you're willing to stay in your town and can balance everything, go for it!  Doesn't hurt to try and if you find you need more time for school, you just stop dating!

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Is it not a good idea to date classmates?  Any thoughts?

I'd say size of your class matters as well as how you handle 'breakups'.  If you're in a class of <30, a relationship (breakup or not) might affect the dynamic but a class of 90 might not even notice.

 

Generally I'd say it's probably not the best idea.  Same idea as don't date your coworkers kind of thing.

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What if they were hot as hell?  Would u risk it all for that special someone?

 

My lady is orders of magnitude hotter and more special than anyone I'm going to meet in PA school or anywhere else.

 

Plus, she has a job...and I'll be quitting mine....so there's that.

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I'm married and starting PA school. Two dogs, no kids. I currently work insane hours and am usually gone (as in not home once) for a week every other week. I'm guessing PA school will be less demanding that this & we have survived so far (for 8 years) with no problem. So... I think it's person dependent. Age, experiences, expectations and priorities will all play in to how much, or how little, you are able to do outside of school.

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Most of my classmates found time to date or do other things that made them happy in their free time! As long as you're good at time management, you can definitely date! I'd just recommend staying away from toxic people, which ideally you'd do anyway. I had classmates that missed class because they were upset about a significant other.

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